My Husband And My Friend Are Having Secret Contact

I have been married for 15 years. My husband and I
have always had a great relationship. He is a very
gentle, trustworthy, helping man. That’s what I have
always loved most about him. He is 53 and I am 43. We had some family friends (mom, dad, & 2
teenagers) for about 5 or so years that we spent quite
a bit of time with. With that said my family was dealing with some pretty big issues with one of our
daughters that caused a great amount of stress in our
family. 

I also was dealing with significant health issues of my own. I know that I was probably pretty hard to live with at
the time (this past spring) for both my husband and
my kids. I’m sure that I neglected to see that my
husband needed somebody to talk to about it and I
was too busy with my own problems to see it. My problem is that my best friend, C, took it upon
herself to start calling my husband a few times a
month and sometimes more to check on him and see
if he was okay, so she says, never mentioning to me
that she was doing this. I asked him why he didn’t tell me that she was
calling before and he said he knew that there was so
much going on in our lives with our teenager that he
knew I wouldn’t understand and it would make
things worse and I would jump to the wrong
conclusion about talking her. He said he never had any feelings for her other than she was my friend and
thought of her like maybe a sister. He said he finally realized that she was wrong in
calling him (she called all the time) behind my back
and thanked her for helping him but told her to stop
calling. I feel so betrayed... I am trying to deal with the fact
that he didn’t tell me to start with (he said he
didn’t think anything wrong about it to start with or
he would have) but more than anything I feel so
betrayed by my best friend. I loved her like a sister and I don’t think I would’ve
have ever called her husband without her knowing it
no matter what the circumstances would have been. I
feel like she was never a friend at all to have kept
such secrets about my family to me. Its been really
hard to deal with for the last 3 months. Can it be true that a husband can be faithful to his wife
and love her in a situation like this? Was my friend
wrong in not telling me about her calling my husband?
Was my husband wrong in not telling me about it even
though he knew I probably wouldn’t understand at
the time? He hasn’t hid anything from me—call logs, etc.—he
actually showed them all to me. She doesn’t feel like
she has done anything wrong... then why am I so
hurt? I don’t know if I can ever have a female friend
anymore that I can trust. Does it sound like I can trust
my husband? For some reason I always have. He has
apologized for being so naive about her many, many
times and even feels embarrassed that he talked to
her about anything at all. He actually called her husband and apologized to him because he felt like he
had betrayed him for ever talking to her when she
called. I respected him for that. She hasn’t even apologized to me or my children for
the hurt she helped to create. Some background history—I grew up with a Dad who
always cheated on my mom and still does—we
always knew about it and it was a hard pill to
swallow—could this be why I am so doubtful about
men and truth? Please help me